How to Snapchat a Girl

Making a Connection

Add her on Snapchat. Open Snapchat and tap the ghost icon at the screen’s top. In the resulting menu, select “Add Friends.” After that, you’ll be able to add her with her username, through your phone’s contacts (though you’ll need to already have her number), or with a special Snapchat code. If you don’t have her username, number, or Snapchat code, you can always add her by finding her in the friends' list of a mutual friend. Avoid following her on multiple platforms, like Snapchat, Twitter, and Instagram, on the same day. Doing so might come across as too strong.

Send her casual snaps a few days after adding her. Wait a few days before sending that first snap. Snapping her right away might seem a little desperate. After that, snap her once every other day with things like your dog eating snow, street performers, and the pile of homework you got in math class. On this stage, it’s better not to snap too often. When you send her casual snaps regularly, she’ll come to expect hearing from you. This will develop naturally into more snaps in the future.

Increase the frequency of your snaps gradually. As you get to know her better through your casual snapping, you'll start exchanging snaps more frequently. Sending a bunch of snaps too soon could be a turn-off, though if she keeps responding, it's likely she wants the conversation to continue.

Tailor your responses to the situation for a natural conversation. If she responds to you, allow the conversation to develop as though you were chatting in person. Ask her questions about the things she says to show that you’re listening. Use your snaps to paint her a picture of what you like, what you do, and what's important to you.

Avoid worn-out and over-the-top expressions. Phrases like “hey, what’s up,” “what you doing,” and “what’s going on” won’t catch her attention and may go unread. Weird and overly silly comments might also result in her ignoring your snaps. Instead of "hey, what's up," try snapping her a pic in a cowboy hat with the message, "howdy." Aim for a friendly, interested, playful tone. For example, you could write, “they’ll never catch me” with a snap of police driving by.

Continuing the Conversation

Bond over things you have in common. Things that you both enjoy will be easier to talk about, and people are typically more willing to open up to someone if they share common passions or viewpoints. Think about her hobbies, the clubs she’s involved in, and her goals. Any of these could be a springboard into a full Snapchat conversation. Some common areas you might explore include: Art Books Music School TV Sports

Tell a story with your snaps. This is a way of engaging her in the messages you’re sending. For example, if there’s a lot of hustle and bustle behind you, you could pretend like you’re running from a crowd. Use snaps of your empty workplace with some witty text (“busy day in the office”) to increase her interest. Show how things change throughout the day. For instance, you could take snaps early in your shift, during lunch rush, and before you leave to indicate how busy you’ve been.

Comment on her Snapchat stories. When you first start snapping, only comment every once in a while. As you begin to snap more, increase your comments. You don’t have to be funny or wacky when commenting. In a story about her playing with a dog, for example, you might say, “That’s the cutest dog I’ve ever seen.” Comments are a great place for you to ask casual questions. If you notice she was at a concert, you might ask, “Who’d you go see?” She’ll likely respond, and you can start talking about music.

Create opportunities for conversation. Send her a snap every time your favorite song comes on the radio. This way, when she hears the song, she’ll send you a snap and you’ll have a chance to snap more. Some other useful snaps for creating conversation opportunities include: Cute animals Shared favorites (like cars, books, and food) Familiar locations (like classrooms and buildings) Familiar people (like mutual friends)

Take ignored snaps in stride. Generally, people take snaps less seriously than text messages or phone calls. Because of this, many snaps go unseen. If your snaps get ignored, don’t take it personally. When you’re busy, don’t feel like you have to respond to snaps.

Using Features and Respecting Boundaries

Filter your snaps for comedic and artistic effect. There are many visual and audio filters you can use in Snapchat to modify snaps. For example, you could use the doe filter along with a snap of yourself and the message, “I’m hungry. U?” for extra cute factor. Filters can be accessed by going into camera mode, tapping and holding your face, and swiping left. Snapchat regularly releases new filters. Experiment with the various filters available to find your favorites.

Use the streak to your advantage. By snapping daily, you’ll eventually build up a streak. This is an automatic feature. Like most Snapchat users, she’ll probably want to keep the streak alive. This will create even more chances for you to talk with her. By building the frequency of your snaps gradually, you can get a streak started subtly.

Respect her boundaries. Because Snapchat sends videos, boundaries can sometimes be overstepped. Some people might think it’s no big deal to walk around without a shirt on, but to others that may be disrespectful. Sending inappropriate messages on Snapchat could get your account revoked. Although this may be different for some, generally its frowned upon to share private snaps to your Snapchat story.

Add links to your snaps. When you're making adjustments to your snap, you should see a paperclip icon on the right side of your screen. Tapping this will allow you to add links. Use links to add memes, websites, Rick Astley, and more. The linking feature is perfect if you've just snapped her a pic of something she'll want to buy. For example, you might include a link where she could buy shoes you just snapped her.

Surprise her with a silly voice. Voice filters can make you sound high-pitched and cute, low-voiced and robust, like a robot, and more. Access these filters by tapping the speaker icon in the lower-left corner of the screen.