Candid confessions: Would you kiss on first date?

What is the urban Indian's attitude towards dating, relationships and sex. We asked five people if they've kissed somene on a first date? We got a mixed bag of interesting responses.

Don P Abraham, 27, a recently married, Bangalore-based banker has an interesting experience to share from his college days.

I knew this girl for a long time. But on my first date there was no connection. Believe it or not, we did not kiss each other for more than two months into seeing each other! And the relationship didn't last beyond three months.

Chemistry is king

But with this other girl, whom I met just that day, sparks were flying all over the place on our first dinner date. The was connection, vibes, the works! And yes, we kissed.

For me it depended on how the date went. If we get it right and hit it off well, then maybe post a drive and a coffee, a kiss could happen. It's about the connection and comfort level. It's always good not to rush it and look like you are desperate for a bite.

What if she makes the first move?

For me, personally, I would assume she is desperate and she rates the relationship depending on the guy's physical prowess.

Again this is subject to the connection I was talking about before. If we hit it off well and it becomes obvious that the girl is "a tough one to get" type and yet because of the connection she makes the first move, I'd say nothin' like a woman who knows what she wants and takes it when she wants!

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Start early?

Advertising guru Prahlad Kakkar, was way ahead of his time when he kissed a girl at the tender age of 13. What happened?

Kissing on the first date was taboo in my time but I couldn't resist and kissed her anyway. I pursued this lady for a long time. In those days, we had just the movies as reference and it all seemed very exotic and passionate.

The couple was locked in embrace and a lip lock for 40 seconds. I imagined my kiss to be the same; I imagined us gobbling each other's lips up. But, mine was a disaster!

Our lips were smashed against one another, our teeth clenched, tongues were all over the place; it was pure violence. It was 15 seconds of nothing.

These days, kissing on a first date is no big deal. But do not kiss anyone under pressure or because it is cool, do it only if it feels right.

Don't be too "available"

24-year old Shweta Naik, a Melbourne-based operations analyst, is single and loves a good party. She has a huge friend circle, and even though is not a big entrant on the dating scene, here's her story.

I knew this guy from my old office. And this was the first time we met outside work. Movie and dinner. We had a great time. He was honest and "real", if you know what I mean!

When I was leaving, he hugged me and leaned toward me. That's when it happened. It was an innocent, simple exchange of "I-had-a-good-time" feelings. There was no awkwardness. It happened naturally.

Never the same!

But let's face it, a kiss is extremely intimate. And neither of us wanted a relationship, and no matter how much you try, you cannot get back to the "friends" state. So, I guess the spark died and even though we meet once in a while, it's nothing.

But generally speaking, if you are not confident about the guy, it's better to hold back because you don't want to look too "available" and forthright.

But yes it totally depends on how you feel about him, or rather how he makes you feel. I wouldn't generally kiss on the first date but in this case I did, because he made me feel comfortable.

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Never again, dude!

Jason John, Mumbai-based producer in a media company admits he has kissed a girl on the first date, but also mentions that he has never done it since.

Why? Well, this was three years ago. I didn't even know the girl. Our friends set us up. But the fact is, we were having a great time. And since the time was right, I kissed her. And then, automatically, she became my girlfriend! But we didn't work out.

Twice shy?

Three months later, we broke up. I wonder if it was because we jumped into this a little too soon. I didn't know her as well, and the intimacy levels spiralled beyond control in the first meeting itself!

Maybe that's why I am very very sure about the girl I am seeing before I make a move.

Vixen's verdict!

Saba Ali Begum, Pune-based jewellery designer and entreprenuer initiated a kiss on the first date with her "going-to-be-fiance". She shares her tale.

I knew Asif for a long time. We always knew we would be together and consequently get married. Our parents had been talking about it for sometime and we decided we should go out. Asif is really extremely conservative and ethical about relationships, and wanted to "take it slow".

Ethical moves

I wanted us to kiss and we talked about it for sometime, but was always "stalling" the scene. So, the first time we actually went out, I leaned up to him, and then moved away, saying innocently, "Oh, I'm sorry, I know you wanted to take it slow."

The funny thing is, he also wanted to kiss me back at that time! So, the enticement worked and we had our first kiss on our first date!