How to Get a Guy to Dance With You

Using Body Language

Wear something suited to the venue. If you’re going to a salsa or vintage jazz club, you might want to wear something that reflects the theme. You usually don’t have to buy a whole new outfit or anything, but it can’t hurt to make an effort to look nice. Guys will notice and appreciate that you dressed up for the evening. Leave the stilettos and high heels at home. It won’t be easy to dance in those. Avoid dangling or large jewelry. These can also hinder your dancing ability and could even end up hurting your dance partner!

Smile at guys you’re interested in. A simple smile can do wonders for your approachability. No guy is going to want to dance with the person frowning or sulking in the corner. Even if your night isn’t going as planned, fake it until you make it.

Make frequent eye contact and look interested. Make it clear you’re interested in him by making eye contact multiple times. It can’t hurt to look somewhat playfully bored, as if you’re wanting someone to entertain you. If he’s still not getting the hint, try flashing a flirty smile the next time your eyes meet.

Give yourself alone time. Show him that you’re clearly not dancing or here with someone else. This might take some confidence by separating yourself from your friends momentarily. It can be much easier for a guy to walk up to you when not surrounded by several other people. That being said, make sure whoever you came with knows your whereabouts.

Don’t cross your arms. Try not to stand with your arms folded over your chest; you’ll look closed off. If you need something to do with your hands, try putting them on your hips instead. You’ll appear more open and ready to move!

Flirting with Him Verbally

Start with some simple small talk. This can be as basic as, “Hey, what’s up?” You don’t need to rehearse an elaborate pick up line or talk in an overly sexy voice. Just make it clear you’re interested in him. After a little small talk, you’ll both feel much more at ease and dancing may ensue. Some easy introductions are: Talking about the venue. Mentioning the music playing. Asking about how he’s enjoying his drink.

Ask him an engaging question. Maybe you’re asking him where the refreshments are or if he knows what song is playing. Even if you already know the answer, you’ll make him feel wanted and helpful. Plus, it’s an easy way to start a conversation.

Compliment or ask questions about his clothing. Just like you tried to look nice for the evening, the guy probably did the same. Try saying something nice about his shoes or jacket. Ask about the band, sports team, or brand on their shirt. He'll appreciate that you noticed.

Nod your head and maintain eye contact to look interested when talking. Even if he’s going on about something boring, feign interest by nodding your head and looking him in the eyes. If he thinks he’s boring you, he’ll be less likely to ask you to dance.

Asking Him Directly

Ask him to dance if he's not getting your hints. This one may seem obvious, but a lot of guys will appreciate your directness. Chances are many guys are feeling just as anxious, or more so, than you are. If you’re feeling confident, don’t be afraid to walk up to him and hit him with a simple, “Hey, do you want to dance for a bit?” If it goes well, dance away!

Don’t let a rejection discourage you. Plain and simple: not every guy will feel like dancing. Make sure not to take it personally. There could be a million reasons he doesn’t want to dance, and very few of them likely relate to you directly.

Move onto the next guy if the first guy turns you down. Don’t get discouraged! He’s likely not the only guy without a dance partner. Shrug it off and eye your next target. As the old adage goes, “There are plenty of fish in the sea.” Some of those fish are bound to be looking for someone to dance with!